The Dangers of Overpraise and Comparison

The Overpraise Trap

While positive reinforcement is crucial, excessive or insincere praise can undermine self-esteem. Children are remarkably perceptive and can sense when praise is unearned or exaggerated.

This can lead to a fear of failure or a belief that their worth is tied solely to achievements.

Strive for balanced, honest feedback. Acknowledge efforts and improvements, and provide constructive criticism when suitable.

This helps children develop a realistic self-image and the skills to self-evaluate.

Comparison and Competition

In our achievement-oriented society, comparing children to their peers or siblings can be tempting. However, constant comparison can be detrimental to self-esteem, fostering feelings of inadequacy or unhealthy competition.

Focus on personal growth and personal bests rather than how a child measures up to others. Celebrate diverse talents and interests, reinforcing the idea that everyone has unique strengths and areas for growth.